When I tuned into Extras the other day I was really just going for fashion tips and a bit of goss.
I didn’t imagine that the words of one gorgeous Kerry Washington could put me in such a reflective mood.
When asked what advice she would give someone who wanted to look as well fashioned and fabulous as her, her response was, “I know what I like, and what I don’t like. If you spend your time trying to be someone else you’ll never make your mark in this world.”
Words of truth indeed!
Growing up I was a confident and popular child, but even then I was such a people pleaser and didn't feel happy unless someone somehow validated me.
I was top of my class because I wanted my dad to love me. I didn't date until my very late teens because I wanted to be the perfect daughter for my mother.
I took this attitude into my work life, where I had to be the best financial analyst and stock picker in the shortest, fastest, quickest time so my bosses would tell me how brilliant I was.
And as a friend I was always the one you could rely on to pick you up from the airport, late at night on short notice.
As I have grown younger and wiser I have come to accept that there is nothing that anyone of us can ever do to make everyone want, love, and approve of us.
And that’s okay, because that's your job.
It’s up to you to love, appreciate and approve of you just as you are.
Nobody knows the breaths you have taken, the paths you have journeyed, what you have loved and lost, and all the fears you have starred back in the face to be here today.
So give yourself permission to love you, let loose and be YOU – warts, quirks, weirdness, glory and all.
It won’t always be comfortable and you will sometimes be called selfish, but it will be the most rewarding decision and best fun you ever have in your life.
Give yourself permission:
- To be exactly who you are, to be only yourself, and to not care about what other people think you should be.
- To say no without feeling guilt, and to say yes not out of obligation but because it lights you up.
- To not be the best or number one at everything, to bomb, get it wrong, and just do the best you can.
- To be brilliant in your field, to let others see your magnificence, to be on top of your game, and to be paid well for it.
- To feel blue and hurt, to crawl under the blanket and cry from your soul, knowing that this too will pass because your happiness is ordained.
- To have fun and excitement, to do things that bring you joy, to laugh until you snort, to be wild when you want, and to dance till your calves hurt.
- To let go of friendships that make you feel unappreciated and suck the energy out of you.
- To forgive and be forgiven. To give second chances and be given second chances. To be gentle and patient with yourself.
- To surround yourself with people who love, value, adore and appreciate you, people who nurture you, believe in you, and whose eyes light up when you walk in the room.
- To give other people the room and space to be themselves, and to love them just as they are.
Give yourself permission to be loved, to be cherished, and to be the prize - Just As You Are.
As Rev. Michael Beckwith says, you are great and there is something magnificent about you.
The world needs you. So claim your place in it and the Universe will deliver you the prosperity, love, joy and happiness that are yours by divine right.
And if you have a copy of The Magic Manifesting Journal, dust it off and complete these sections:
- A Tribute To The Ones Who Love and Celebrate You
- Your Best Friend
- Body Love
Big Love To You For Just Being You -
* Loago Madigele is a Law of Attraction coach based in Melbourne, Australia with a background in financial investing (former Certified Financial Analyst, Senior Equity Analyst) who uses Theta Healing in conjunction with Law of Attraction to give clients a unique perspective in creating their dream job and succeed in their careers. She is the creator of the Manifest Your Dream Job program and The Magic Manifesting Journal.